1 Topic by Mrs1979

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Topic: nasty nasty neighbours

We moved into our house nearly 4 tears ago (bought) a few months later a family moved in next door (private rented) she had 2 kids and a boyfriend that used to come and go! Our stairs join and the noise from everything she does is just incrediable. At first I heard then arguing and then the kids screaming and shouting, playing footbal in the house when I approched her this was her response "they are my fucking kids and my fucking kids will do what the fuck they want to do" how lovely!!! We had the local council involved and because it is not loud music they are not prepared to do anything, the noise just gets louder, domestic violence (which the police do nothing about) kids running up/down stairs and hall ways until late at night, she bangs hoover of wall very early in morning. We have had tyres slashed on cars and now live with a camera on our house. She had a baby at the beginning of this year and that just adds to the noise. She doesnt seem to be aware of how much we can actually hear even thou she has been told on numerous occasions.

We have spoken to the landlord who says he has no problems and that he gets his rent every month but considering the government pays that he always will.

I have now been on anti depressants for 3 years and it has caused a heart problem with my husbandthrough stress.

We have tryed to sell our house but cant.

We are now desperate......PLEASE HELP! sad

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  • Registered: 16 November 2010
  • Posts: 3,805

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Hello and welcome Mrs,

and your aware you have to disclose these issues to a potential buyer... sad

I think you have to look at losing a chunk of the selling price...but am sure you could sell, even via auction....and even with a loss.... sad

a case of starting over....I know you'd rather someone could wave a wand and make it better...

I WISH we could..... neutral

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  • Registered: 1 April 2010
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The fact that the noise isn't music is irrelevant, Mrs, and you need to be firm about that with the council. Normal domestic noise they can't do anything about, excessive noise, particulalry at anti-social hours definitely can be sorted - if the council has a mind to!

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  • Registered: 14 January 2011
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hello Mrs 1979,

i have just read your post and it brought it all back to me. my family indured the same experience for over 2 years with a anti-social, noisy neighbour. there was only one chlid involved, thank god, and a 'visiting' boyfriend whom  spent most of his time rowing whilst there. the 'lady' was very confrontational and did not understand the impact of their behaviour on my family. i too ended up on anti-depressants so fully understand what you are going through. i did not get any joy from my EH dept, but i did find Shelter to be of assistance.and just like your neighbours landlord, my problem was getting him to to do anything with his tenant. he stated that if the EH did not do anything than he did not have to and did not wish to upset his tenant incase they stopped paying towards their benefit supported rent. Shelter have a ongoing campaigne to control anti-social landlords who ither mistreat thier tenants or, in our case, ignore continued anti-social behaviour. i just looked them up on goggle, called and got an appointment at my local office. they were very understanding , which i found so refreshing. they are not a cure, but i am sure they can listen and help you as much as they can.
i wish i could wave a magic wand for you. i am free of anti-social neighbours, for now........... mine moved away before legal proceedings could be brought against them. but they have left their mark on us.

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5 Reply by norman99

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Hi, i remember only to well the stress. After over 2 years of hell with noise, drugs (use and dealing), criminal damage to our property, and threats against us we have finally sold up and moved. Police did what they could and through breach of an ASBO managed to move on the main problem. EH new about the past problems with these tenants but were of little help. So sold up! Had my solicitor make it clear the problems and took a spanking on the sale price, fortunately we bought the house we wanted and passed on our price losses thanks to the current housing market climate.
It is so annoying to work hard to own your own home and these idiots are given theirs at taxpayers expense.
Sold my house to a landlord, it is a shame but we couldnt sacrifice anymore of our lives to this.
My wife and I take consolation in the fact that these people have very sorry existences and will continue to live their lives in this manner without us as neighbours.

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  • Registered: 14 January 2011
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norman99 wrote:

Hi, i remember only to well the stress. After over 2 years of hell with noise, drugs (use and dealing), criminal damage to our property, and threats against us we have finally sold up and moved. Police did what they could and through breach of an ASBO managed to move on the main problem. EH new about the past problems with these tenants but were of little help. So sold up! Had my solicitor make it clear the problems and took a spanking on the sale price, fortunately we bought the house we wanted and passed on our price losses thanks to the current housing market climate.
It is so annoying to work hard to own your own home and these idiots are given theirs at taxpayers expense.
Sold my house to a landlord, it is a shame but we couldnt sacrifice anymore of our lives to this.
My wife and I take consolation in the fact that these people have very sorry existences and will continue to live their lives in this manner without us as neighbours.

i can completely understand why you sold up norman99, if we had the finances, we would have done the same. the police tried their hardest to help us , but due to the lack of intervention by the EH department, they had their hands tied. EH were meant to obtain an ASBO and proceed with action for breeching an order but took so long to get the paper work through that the evidence was considered out of date, (6 months).
as you stated, it is so frustrating to have worked so hard  to afford our own home only to risk losing it, in order to  able to defend your families right to a peaceful, happy home. 
my 'neighbour' left the property in order to avoid any action due to be taken against them, so they are now free to continue their rein of terror upon some other poor , unsuspecting home owner, without any noted record of previous bad behavior.
we have been free of the nightmare for a month or so now, and i cannot believe the difference it has made to my family.

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  • Registered: 15 January 2012
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I have been living here in this HA flat for 14 years, my neighbour moved in 9 years.Whom lives upstairs from me; they have been been noisy on and off for a good part of them years.
I just recently agreed to mediation, would it help? This guy thinks I have an vendetta against him because he says I complain even when he walks across the floor, also because he is from another country .. This house has been converted back in the early 80's so there is no sound insulation whatsoever and to make things worse. I think the coils of he's mattress has gone, so noisy a lot of times wake me during the night. All I would like is a decent, peaceful nights sleep;Is that to much to ask sad

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  • Registered: 16 November 2010
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Welcome to our Oasis Nutrisha,

Its NOT too much to ask but I think getting blood from a stone may be easier....as you already are aware.

It takes TWO to mediate.....two with an honest view to coming to compromises.....to enhance and re-establish the ability to live in your house and call it a home again.....

I regret some NN will pull out varying cards to redirect complaints back onto the complainee.....

NINE years is a long time to suffer after a good FIVE ..... maybe it would help you to write down here the "highlights" of these NINE, a good exercize as you approach mediation...... wink  wink

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  • Registered: 8 May 2012
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Hi Mrs & other members / posters.


I can fully understand what you are going through as iam having the same problem with my nfh.....

It started the 1st night we moved in here and has got worse, i have been round and had a word twice and it stops for a bit then he and his family go back to there we can do what we want in our own home ways.....

So me and the wife have decided to put the house up for sale as living next door to these people is making me a nervous wreck ( i think a lot of this tems from the last house we lived in ) iam on tablets for it and dread weekends, sorry for waffling on it all makes sense to me but might not you's.......

Should have added we moved from are last home after the nfh set fire to our fence nearly killing the rabbits and destroying my moutain bike, this wasnt the only problems we had with them  ie parking issuse, rubbish been left outside there front and back doors a mattress that could have walked to the tip itself , i say to the wife we have plenty of luck and its all bad......

Hopefully the next house we move to has wonderful people living round us.

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  • Registered: 16 November 2010
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Welcome Bob to our Oasis wink

I regret your in good company here.

YES, sadly we DO understand neutral  neutral

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  • Registered: 8 May 2012
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Thanks Pandora

It's nice in one way to beable to speak to other people who have the same issuses but very very sad in the other respect that we have to put up with people who seem to enjoy making lives intolrable.....


i would go round and teach the idiot husband next door a lesson but sadly i would never get the house sold as i would have to declare we have had problems plus he would call the police and have me lifted.

So fingers crossed the house sells soon

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