I am young and since i moved in had nothing but stress. Seams she took an instant dislike to me as her last neighbour was her age 80 odd.

I had mediation as apparently i was to noisy, since i didnt agree certain things she suddenly withdrew with no resolution. Seams she relished things being unresolved where id like something sorted i just sure she want me out anyway. She done small things i think to annoy me like move my matt a few inches put a tiny rence around her communial patch. She knows windchimes annoy me and hurt my ears i resolved an issue with next door over them and we get on ok,
then some chimes by her suddenly go up. I tried speak to her but she tries make me feel small and accuses me of intimidating her where as she is one who seams 2faced and gossips. She thinks they dont make much noise but i think they are in to much close proximity and selfish and make lots clanging and echoing and high frequency noise.

It is 4 flats and she is below me. It is very frustrating i feel shed be much happier in sheltered accommodation. There is lifestyle clash seams i get made out to feel i a problem but i hardly have anyone round an very quiet for a 26 year old guy and respectful and causes me great depression. I get disturbed every morning by loud chores at crack dawn but she has check to expect silence by 9pm as requested at mediation shuttle.

Is this quite common with young guys and elderly women, she accssued me doing diy at night and hoovering it all  lies and only ever walk around quietly i get impression she is trying to subtle control me but i end up feeling guilty and she thinks she makes no noise but can clearly hear her. It is frustrating as other neighbour work all day would be ideal for me i could do hobbies and relax in piece and have odd bit music on I feel i cant do anything incase bothers her where at same time i'm annoyed im stuck in 24/7 with an elderly women who is unpleasent and eve tries gossiping and turn other neighbour against me but i sure other neighbour can see what she is like.

Seam will never work. I feel i have right to also do chores in evening as i think most people do when get in from work not in morning like she says is normal. Feels a problem as i dont particuly like family of hers either they scum i think, litter and pretty foul mouthed from what i've over heard.

i wondered is it common elderly doing this id say i get on with a fair few old people but seams impossible in this case. i cant work out what she wants or is up to some kind games i guess i should ignore but is difficult it make me lack in confidence really, feels pretty clostrophobic,
i think she makes up exadurates most of it or just expect silence ant my lifestyle dont match hers so she complained to housing officer, but not heard much since so expect she relises she cant do anything as my noise is reasonable living noise. I try accept her noise like slamming doors at 8am at up at 7am sometime sand feel it far to early i mean i hear it through ear plugs sometimes let alone without but am unsure if can complain.

I waffled on a bit just got carried away i cannot help i feel much more relaxed if had other neighbours lifestyles and didnt know of the family through other people. I also cannot decide whether to complain of this woman and various harrasment minor issues, she pretty healthy for age and quick, i warey of complaining about an 80 years old, just whole thing feels like a nightmare, ireally like flat to as in nice area and cheap rent council i had much better neighbours it seamed in worse areas before.

I feel like i made out to be a nosey anti social thug or something, odd night at weekend i play music as she is never out and feel i have right known again and isnt ever past 10.30pm.

i sick off stress and not getting on with neighbour it exactly what i dont need for my illness, luckerly is at least concrete so cant hear every little thing, cannot really see a solution apart from me not caring anymore and trying to blank he rout my life but very tough to do so. I keep hoping she will have move into sheltered and get out my life and making me a wreck, bit of a rant just typed as i felt and expect hard to read as wrote quick and feel tired also.

always feel liek i doing something wrong even though reasured by family.