• Registered: 17 May 2010
  • Posts: 2

Topic: Same problems as everyone else!

Hi!
I'm new, found the forum whilst driven to distraction, probably much like everyone else here!

I have been suffering with my noisy partying neighbours for the past two years on and off, but recently, since they split and he moved out, it has all got much worse. She has stayed in the house with the little girl, got herself a boyfriend who is well known to police and ramped up her partying to the point where I think I might go insane.  Music through the night and days, drunken fighting inside the house, etc etc.

I am keeping a record for the housing association, enviromental health have just (today) been informed, but I am terrified about the repercussions when they all contact the perpetrator about it. Her boyfriend is known to be a user with a long past and is apparently particularly nasty, as is her friends boyfriend. The four of them (her, friend and both men) are always round there, none work.

I have just seen them stagger up the road, come home and the music has gone on, can't hear my tv which is on the other side of the house to them and I know whats coming for the night.  Trouble is, we live in a close, I'm the only one connected to their house (she's end of terrace), my car, both our motorbikes and my trailer tent are outside and I know that sooner or later there'll be some damage, as they've already kicked the side of my neighbours car in.

I'm terrified that now they'll be contacted by the landlords and the council they'll start directly on us and our property.  I suffer from stomach pains every time it starts now (probably just an ulcer!) and just don't know what to do.  Its 4:45 in the afternoon and I'm sat here crying my eyes out, I just can't cope.  Hubby is out for the night, so I have arranged for me, our son and the dog to stay at my mums tonight.

Sorry for dumping, I know everyone here has the same problems, but you know how good it is to talk to someone about it.

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  • Registered: 5 May 2010
  • Posts: 19

Re: Same problems as everyone else!

Hi Tennessee,

Firstly, welcome to the site and there's no problems about dumping, we all do it and it's good to get it off the chest.  I think we've all done the same for our first post.

Secondly, I think your case sounds so extreme and violent that people on here may be wary of offering advice in case the advice they give puts you in harms way.

My recommendation would first speak to your local neighbourhood police team.  Info will be available on your local police website about who to contact.  Obviously how you go about it is upto you, but I'd speak to them first, tell them about the noise problem but tell them you feel for your safety if you attempt to resolve it.   I'm not well versed on the law or police but they will at least provide you with initial options.

On a separate note, I had to track a person I knew who had stolen from me.  The police did pull his record and talk about it without going into detail, so if you raise this person to them then surely they'll do a search and understand your concerns and may be able to work with the HA and EH to get rid of them.

I'm sorry I couldn't be any real help, I truly feel sorry for you and your situation and hope the Police will offer a permanent solution.

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  • norman
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Re: Same problems as everyone else!

Hi Tennassee,
I have to agree with Compost, contact your local police, explain to them your position and how it is affecting you.
My wife and I had a similar problem, however, our neighbours were not violent, our neighbours were just idiotic. They were known to the police and it was obvious from living next door they were involved in low level crime and had noisy parties, didnt work etc. On contacting the local police and explained that we were aware of the tenants past and present criminal activities, he said he would have a quiet chat with them. I do not know, but I think there was more to it than my wife and I knew because the transformation was amazing, but still not always acceptable.
I contacted the PC a second time ( he had given me his direct mobile no. to contact him should we have problems). He offered to have another quiet chat with them but as we were trying to sell the house I declined, just wanting to make him aware. Recently another event prompted me to call him and this time much to his obvious pleasure I asked him to have a word with them.
The transformation was amazing again. She was arrested a few days later and 3 weeks after that moved out. I believe the local police knew a lot more than my wife and I know about this, but I cant fault the police response at any time. We have our lives back again and sanity is regained.
Now I just have the problem of selling my house. Hope this gives you hope.

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  • Registered: 1 April 2010
  • Posts: 194

Re: Same problems as everyone else!

Tennessee, welcome to the site.  As the others have said, you should never be in a situation where you fear for your safety, or that of your property.  The Police wouldn't take the risk of going about something that could put you or your property in danger from others. Please contact your Community PO, and explain your situation asap.

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  • Registered: 17 May 2010
  • Posts: 2

Re: Same problems as everyone else!

Thanks to everyone for your replies.

I have made the police aware of the situation, who attended my house for something totally unrelated, and found out a few interesting things.  Not much, but it has given me a little hope. 

I have also seen the doctor, spoken to the HA and EH. At least they know now, I am hoping that life may slowly become a little more bearable.  The situation has landed me on medication, but I need a break, and this will help.  I have taken a long look at other areas of my life and changed a few things, so that I feel more able to cope.

Last time I wrote, I spent the night at my parents house.  I felt sick coming back to mine the next day, and spent the rest of the week dreading going home, but am slowly coming to terms with that.

I know its not going to be easy, and things will probably get worse, but you have to start somewhere.

Many, many thanks, sorry for the dealy in replying, but I haven't been well (on top of all this!)
Take care everyone, will speak soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  • Registered: 1 April 2010
  • Posts: 194

Re: Same problems as everyone else!

Sorry you haven't been well, Tennessee, but I'm very pleased to hear that those who can help you are taking your situation seriously. I hope the situation gets better soon, but I'm so glad that you're coping better now. Take care!

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